Growing Us Blog

Relationship insights, communication tips, and couple activities

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We Just Launched the Growing Us App (And We're Terrified)

After months of building, testing, and having our own relationship coached by our own app, Growing Us is live on Android and iPhone. Here's what we bu...

6 min read
rituals

The Valentine's Gift That Starts with 'Thank You'

Gratitude is the quiet engine of every good relationship. This Valentine's Day, we turned ours into art — and you can too....

5 min read
rituals

Skip the Flowers: A Valentine's Gift That Actually Means Something

We love Valentine's Day. We just think the gifts could be a little more... you. Here's how to turn your favorite memory into art....

6 min read
conflict

How to Resolve Conflict in Relationships Without Hating Each Other

We used to be terrible at fighting. Now we treat conflict like a debugging process. Here's the messy, honest system we built to argue better and come ...

11 min read
relationship-science

We Tried Every Couples App So You Don't Have To (2026)

After testing 15+ relationship apps, we learned that most do one thing well—and that's the problem. Here's our brutally honest comparison....

12 min read
communication

Eight Ways: Questions for Long Distance Relationships that Deepen Connection

Okay, let's be real. Long distance can suck. Here's the toolkit that saved our asses — the real, messy, and deeply connecting questions that helped us...

18 min read
communication

Conversation Starters for Couples We Actually Use

Conversation starters for couples are really just questions designed to get you out of autopilot. Here are the ones that actually work for us....

12 min read
rituals

The 5-Minute Year Review That Ends with a Love Letter

We're big fans of New Year's resolutions. We just think couples should make them together — and a little more heartfelt....

8 min read
rituals

The Truth About Relationship Maintenance: It's Not Just for 'Broken' Couples

Think relationship tools are only for when you're fighting? Think again. Here’s why proactive maintenance is the secret to staying happy (and sane)....

7 min read
communication

7 Relationship Communication Exercises That Actually Work (No Therapy Speak)

We’ve curated 7 practical, non-cringe communication exercises to help you stop fighting about dishes and start connecting again....

10 min read
communication

How to Begin Relationship Coaching When You Don't Have Time for Therapy

Struggling to communicate but can't fit therapy into your schedule? Learn how AI coaching offers a 24/7 alternative for busy couples....

7 min read
relationship-science

Why Relationship Counseling Works (And Why AI Might Be the Next Step)

We break down the science of why counseling works, how to rebuild trust, and why AI might be the key to making support accessible for everyone....

8 min read
relationship-science

Can AI Actually Help Your Relationship? (Beyond the Hype)

We dive into the rise of AI relationship coaches, how they differ from traditional therapy, and why 'robot' advice might actually be surprisingly huma...

9 min read
relationship-science

Reconnecting After 10 Years: A Guide for Remote-Working Couples

We explore how to rekindle intimacy when you both work from home, finding the spark after a decade together, and non-traditional support methods....

8 min read
rituals

Is a Regular Relationship Check-In Worth It? (Plus Tools for Busy Couples)

We explore the ROI of weekly relationship meetings, what real compatibility looks like, and the best coaching apps for busy tech couples who need stru...

7 min read
communication

How Solo Practice Makes Couple Conversations Actually Work

The best couple conversations start before your partner is even in the room. Here's how we use solo practice to prepare for the talks that used to der...

9 min read
self-help

Why Your Therapist's Personality Predicts Your Success

Research shows the therapeutic relationship matters more than the technique. Here's what decades of psychology research tells us about finding the rig...

10 min read
relationship-science

How to Build Emotional Safety in Relationships

Emotional safety isn't about never fighting or always agreeing. It's about knowing you can be messy, uncertain, and human without being abandoned. Her...

10 min read
relationship-science

Gottman Method Check-In Questions We Actually Use

We're not therapists, but we've borrowed heavily from Gottman's research. Here are the check-in questions from his Sound Relationship House that work ...

8 min read
communication

Free Relationship Check-In Template (Copy & Use)

Stop winging your relationship check-ins. Here's the exact template we use every Friday—copy it, adapt it, make it yours....

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